
THE TRUTH ABOUT MEN AND MALE BOUDOIR
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January 21, 2021
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Now that I have your attention…let’s have a little chat about … MALE BOUDOIR!
And just so we’re clear from the get-go … when I talk about male boudoir… NO … I am not referring to those “let’s see a man in his underwear, making ridiculous feminine poses like it’s funny” kinda shoots because they are just … NOT! Period!
So glad I could clear that up!
It’s no surprise that as an all-inclusive boudoir photographer, I shoot ALL kinds of humans.
Why? Because it’s always been my philosophy that everyBODY deserves to feel sexy…no matter what race, size, shape, age (as a consenting adult of course), sexuality, or gender identity a person may be. It takes all kinds of humans to make this big ol’ crazy world go round….and in this world and the exciting world of Boudoir photography, I believe ALL humans deserve to be represented and male boudoir photography is no exception!! Can I get a HELL YEAH up in here!!
For me, shooting men (or folks who identify as male) and male boudoir, lands right in there along with everyone else! What most people don’t realise though, is that men (along with many other groups of humans and marginalized folk) are often not represented in this genre of photography.
Why? Because there is this ridiculous notion in “society” that it is not “acceptable” for men to want these types of boudoir experiences for themselves. Nor is it widely accepted that men should show their emotions, their insecurities, or vulnerabilities. Ahhh yes … there’s that nasty toxic masculinity hard at work again!


Well, I say SCREW THAT NOISE and screw “societal norms”! Why shouldn’t a man feel comfortable in expressing himself in whatever way he chooses as long as it’s not causing harm to others? Why can’t a man have a boudoir session and feel proud to be expressing himself? A man is not any less of a man if he chooses to show his emotions, his feelings, his pain, his vulnerability. Nor is he any less human, for wanting to document his own life journey. As the old saying goes….each to his own…AM I RIGHT??!!
The feeling of empowerment should not be limited to a particular sex or gender.
Over the years I have had the pleasure of photographing numerous male clients. Do you want to know the most common reason they give, for doing a shoot like this is?? WAIT FOR IT … it’s for the EXACT same reasons women come to do this type of experience for themselves!! I SHIT YOU NOT!! Just like their female counterparts, men want to feel good about themselves too…and why the hell shouldn’t they?
I’ve been fortunate to have engaged in some pretty deep conversations with my male clients about this and I am thankful to those fellows who have been kind enough to open up and be vulnerable with me and share their stories. One of the many things I have learned from these conversations is, men also have the same concerns surrounding body image and self-confidence as women do. Yes…they worry about what “they” (society, friends, family, and the internet trolls, etc) will say. The fear of judgment surrounding their outward appearance or being subjected to body shaming for having a “dad bod” and not the washboard, six-pack abs that is generally accepted as the “norm” and expected by most viewers these days, when looking at images of men in the media. The issues surrounding body acceptance is something that we, as women, encounter regularly throughout our lives, so why would we think this would be any different for men?

